Kerry Docherty on "Selfish" & The Permission to Want More

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About this conversation

What does it really mean to be “selfish”… and why are so many of us afraid of it? This week on Shelf Care Society , I sit down with Kerry Docherty, co-founder of Faherty and author of Selfish , a sharp, deeply personal memoir about unlearning the roles that keep us small. We start where the book does: on a therapist’s couch, where Kerry and her husband are negotiating Kerry's salary. From there, we unpack the invisible contracts so many of us inherit around marriage, work, ambition, and worth and what it takes to break them. We also discuss "soul contracts"! In this conversation, we get into: Why “selfish” might be the most misunderstood word in personal growth The cost of being the reliable one in every room How ambition shifts when you stop performing for approval What it looks like to rewrite your role inside a marriage, a family, and a business The uncomfortable decisions that actually change a life This is a conversation about telling the truth, even when it disrupts everything around you.

On the table

• Identity
• Ambition
• Memoir

Words worth keeping

Watching people choose themselves, and give up something that they know is not making them feel better, is such an act of resistance and proclamation of your truest version of yourself.

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